I feel there’s a strange stigma on self-love. I don’t know whether you feel it or felt it, but I most certainly do. That said, with social networks such as Instagram and the self-loving #selfie, this is slowly changing. The stigma I mention is that of someone who has self-love and are confident are labelled ‘arrogant and unlikeable’. If someone lacks self-love and is unconfident they are labelled ‘attention seekers’
This time last year, and anytime behind that, I completely lacked self-love. I constantly used to be called an ‘attention seeker’ for it. But that’s society for you, full of contradictions. I was talking to a good friend of mine about the power of self-love and he too claimed he completely lacked it once so every day he would say one thing he liked about himself, whether that be a character trait or something about his appearance. Whenever someone congratulated him or complimented him about something he wouldn’t think ‘oh they’re just saying that to be nice’ he’d swallow the initial thoughts, believe and thank them.
I took these little tips and put them into practice and now I have developed self-love. This self-love is key in managing and battling my depression and anxiety. Having self-love allows me to attack my critical voice whenever it begins to overpower my mind. Having self-love allows me, when I lye in fear at night about the worst happening, to challenge these thoughts and ask myself whether ‘I deserve happiness’ and slowly the answer becomes ‘yes’. It’s not always this easy to maintain self-love. But the power of self-love is incredible and the changes it has on who you are, the people you attract and the things you achieve is incredible. Whether you’re depressed, anxious, bi-polar, fifteen, five, tall, small, blonde, brunette… whatever and whoever you are, you deserve to have self-love.
My motto is (I have probably blogged this before but shall again):
You’re only going to be with one person for your entire life, yourself. May as well learn to love yourself.
If you don’t, nobody else will.