What is done, is done.
What has been, has been.
What has gone, has gone.
Dwelling on the past and desperately trying to understand what happened, why it happened, what the meaning of it was, why it went, where it went, where it went wrong well it’s completely pointless is it not?
We attempt to make patterns from life events to create understanding. But sometimes things just happen that we can never truly understand, the cause exists, the cause is life and change. But dwelling on it and living in the past… Well I must ask myself and you – what does living in the past gain? What are the positives for living in the past? How does it help your present, positively? Does it?
No. It doesn’t.
Things happen, that’s a fundmental rule of time. Sadly people die, people leave, things are lost, mistakes are made. I can’t tell you why, what they mean, I can’t tell you anything. But dwelling and holding onto them, well that can’t either.
You can spend hours trying to piece the puzzle together. Or, you can get up and move on.
Acceptance is one of the hardest things to swallow but once you have you finally feel better.